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Is The Goal Partnership?
Is The Goal Partnership?
If it were, WE would have a more significant meaning than looking to validate I in a relationship. I’s start all their relationships believing they found someone who can enhance their identity—going from I’s to WE’s: A Friend, A Spouse, A Parent, A Village.
Then, somewhere down the line, I lose track of why WE became us in the first place. I start fixating on its independence. I don’t have any responsibility but me; I come and go as I please, I can eat what I want, live how I want, I don’t have to argue with anyone.
Yet, I Forgot how WE gave them purpose.
The goal was a partnership.
I promised to be responsible for someone else’s livelihood. I agreed to discuss the goings and comings, the daily meals, the lives WE wanted. I supported arguing to find common ground so WE can be us. When did it change?
The goal was a partnership.
I know WE would take merging ideas to form a collective ideal. I know WE would help through the hardships and challenges when I became the hardship. I know WE would mean becoming interdependent.
The goal is a partnership.
So, why is our identity centered more around I instead of WE? When the goal is I’s into We’s.
We were born I’s to become We’s
because We’s Make Us Better I’s
So continue building your partnerships because they see what you can’t and encourage you to have a vision.
Invest In Our Loved Ones
Invest In Our Loved Ones. We lie. We keep secrets. Believing our stories are in the drama. Many of us rather carry the perception of enjoyable instead of healthy. Being prisoners of our desires, the what’s next. We don’t care about what it takes the maintain healthy relationships. Our wishes for self-fulfillment supersedes our faith in togetherness.
Do we think about the people who are on life’s journey with us?
The support and foundation. The links to our true fulfillment and purpose. We have forgotten, our Loved ones are the building blocks to a fulfilled life.
Invest!
Invest in the people we Love. Make promises and act to keep them. Prioritize time with them. Not out of obligation, because you enjoy spending time with them. Dedicate every breath to constructing a life together. Stop taking the sharing of thoughts for granted. Open your mouth and live transparency. Instead of being fearful of pushing them away, bring them closer. Invest in our loved ones. They are our humanity.
Stop running from judgment. Most of the people we Love already see the worst of us. They are just waiting to get let in. They want to stop assuming and know. Trust is an influential proponent of accountable relationships. So, look them in the eyes and challenge the connection. Challenge it to be honest, open, free of pretenses. Give them everything we have. Leave the drama out of it. Lies and secrets spark questions and mystery. But aren’t we all looking to be the answer?
Invest In Our Loved Ones!
Think about it!
Simplicity Is The Most Profound Discussion
Simplicity Is The Most Profound Discussion You Can Have.
–Colors are colors regardless of their difference
–Colors are colors regardless of their differenceSimplicity is the most profound discussion you can have.
Any master of a discipline can break the most complex topics into their simplest form. Anyone who wants to keep it complex isn’t trying to teach you. They are trying to value themselves through the lack of information.
As Accountable Relationship Builders, the goal is to encourage people to master their people. We should have the ability to break one another into their simplest form. Anyone who is trying to remain complex isn’t trying to connect. They are placing value in remaining disconnected. They prefer walls over faith.
So they hold back.
-Secrets steal the connection more than sharing ever does
-Secrets steal the connection more than sharing ever does
Simplicity is the most profound discussion you can have.
You acted. Discuss your actions with the people who are the closest to your heart. Sound simple, right. It is! But we are afraid of simplicity. So we make it complex. We keep it to ourselves for days, weeks, months, and years. So, we experience added anxiety, and we live on borrowed time. We were having more of a relationship with “the omission” than the actual person/people.
Your new relationships with anxiety will get you your movie or streaming series, but it will never lead to accountable, supportive, and healthier relationships.
Have the discussion.
Your people may appreciate your honesty because you provided them with a choice. Maybe, they will dislike you at the moment. But, it still allows them to weigh your value in their lives with open eyes.
“The Truth Will Set You Free,” not from the consequences of your actions but the freedom to start the redemption process.
–loneliness is the choice to not let people in.Â
–loneliness is the choice to not let people in. Simplicity is the most profound discussion you can have.
Be a master of all your relationships by keeping them simple. Have agreement and principles each person in the relationship can honor long-term.
Examples:
1) Before acting, think about how it would affect the relationship and are you willing to deal with the consequences of your actions.
2) Check-in daily, building a pattern of consistency and dependability
3) No topic is off-limits. Have an open line of communication. Life is happening, and free speech allows informed choices.
4) Establish four core values that govern your relationship. Through a forever-changing world, holding each other accountable is vital. It allows us to know where’s home.
So ask yourself, “Am I A Master Of My Relationships?”
If the answer is “YES.”
You are having the most profound discussions because simplicity does come naturally.
Boundaries In Our Relationships
Let’s discuss boundaries in relationships.
There is a long list of people lining up for acceptance. Yet, what a person will not accept is equally essential. Boundaries! The “No” in relationships. The invisible protection of our moral fiber.
What are boundaries?
Boundaries are the beliefs we are not willing to forfeit for any human on earth. Yes, we don’t “know it all,” and with knowledge comes change. But, boundaries are the certainty of the reflection in the mirror. They prevent us from losing the person everyone recognizes without limiting our ability to learn. So, what are boundaries? They are our decision-makers when we are not in the right state of mind to make decisions.
Why are Boundaries so important in relationships?
The answer to this question is the last line of answering what are boundaries. They are our checks and balances when decisions are required. When entering relationships, we discuss what we want. Boundaries encourage us to discuss what we don’t like in the same breath. Everything is a relationship. We can look someone in the face and say I want a person who prioritizes us, is straightforward and is dedicated. While also expressing why you are interested in connecting with people. The importance of boundaries in relationships gives people certainty in something as unpredictable as merging lives.
Why do boundaries feel like limitations?
So, the bigger question is, why are we so afraid of constraints. Boundaries feel like limitations because they are. We have limitations that stifle our ability the reach our full potential. Boundaries in relationships are the opposite. They allow us to narrow our focus. We can reach the full potential of our relationships without compromising each person’s core values. Ideally! When we establish boundaries in our relationships, we establish agreements that solidify the relationship’s health—knowing permits us to better navigate the unknown.
How do boundaries mean “I Love You”?
Knowing what makes a person tick is the start of working toward ” I Love You”! When people can create a relationship where they accept the terms of each other’s boundaries. They can start building an accountable existence together. It also means they are committed to building a home within the guidelines of their agreements. Most people believe Love is about flying to the moon. Love is actually about agreeing to commit to keeping one another grounded. So, boundaries mean I Love You because they are the very fabric of a commitment—the clarity in a forever-changing world.
Boundaries in relationships are significant to the health of any relationship because they give us a road map to remaining on course in every relationship we have. Therefore, we can hold each other accountable for ensuring we honor our relationships. So, people, let’s start discussing our boundaries early in our relationships.
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Drama Does Not Equate To Excitement
Drama does not equate to excitement in Accountable Relationships. In this Messages On The Move, Aziz discusses how maintaining the purity of our relationships should be what makes our relationships exciting. The most complex achievement in a changing world is finding stability. When you find peace, why add drama to the relationship? Drama does not equate to excitement in accountable relationships.
Let’s Discuss Four Points on How “Drama Does Not Equate To Excitement In Accountable Relationships:
Why Are You In Relationships?Â
Our reason for agreeing to be in relationships is to enhance our and other’s lives. If one part of that equation is missing, it is no longer a relationship, and drama ensues. You can be in a healthy and drama-free relationship. The Key is keeping the purpose the primary purpose.Â
Why Do You See Drama As Being Purposeful?
Many people confuse drama with conflict. In turn, they start to believe drama is purposeful. Conflict is healthy in relationships. People don’t always agree, but they have to have the tool to resolve the disputes, or drama will be the result. Drama doesn’t equal purpose. It equals bad stress. Therefore, drama does not equate to excitement.Â
Why Do you Connect to Drama?
Drama can be fun/exciting when we watch it on the television or read it in a book. In reality, it sucks the life out of our commitments. Drama isn’t our friend, so we need to stop building a connection to it. Remain focused! Core Values, Joy, Passion are our connecting points.
What Is True Excitement?Â
Accountable Relationships are True Excitement! True Excitement is waking up with the desire to maintain everything we built with the people we Love. What is more exciting than knowing we are investing our time on earth, honoring the agreements of our relationships. Drama does not equate to excitement in our relationships when we embrace the pleasure of accountability.
Aziz explains further, Why drama does not equate to excitement in Accountable Relationships in the video below. Listen, Learn, and Apply! Enjoy!
By The LoveSnobs
Let’s Define Loyalty In Our Relationships and Apply It!
Loyalty In Our Relationships is a Message On The Move about How to Apply Loyalty To All Our Relationships. We tend to believe loyalty means stand by someone once they are in a bind. Loyalty is proactive. It is an agreement to honor the word over the people. We have to be loyal to the relationships we promise to be a part of, not a person’s independent action.Â
Aziz explains four ways to maintain Loyalty in a relationship. Â
1) Loyalty Is A Boomerang Like Love –
Loyalty is a commitment to walk together and tackle the unforeseen obstacles that may occur in life. It isn’t a standard to lift someone when they are choosing to jump down. We should throw Loyalty at others, knowing it would come back. Not hoping it will!Â
2) Honoring The Faith Of Loyalty –
Before we can honor Loyalty in our relationships, we have to understand what Loyalty means. Everyone must enter a relationship saying, “we are ready to keep the relationship healthy” by fully committing to the agreement to be loyal. We can’t commit selfish acts against our relationships and call it “disloyalty” when people walk away for us. We Broke The Contract.Â
3) Taking A Disloyal Person Back –
Now, there will be times people are disloyal. How can they repair the relationship? They can take ownership of what they did, map out what they will do going forward, and start rebuilding the relationship with consistency. Accountability is always the start but being committed to repairing the hole shows they are ready.
4) Loyalty Is Greater Than Us –
Loyalty isn’t a person. It is people working together to bring the word to life. Loyalty only exists when people agree, walk, and live the agreement. It is who we become through believing in something greater than ourselves—Being loyal in our relationships is one of many foundations. We must practice and preserve it daily.
Loyalty in our relationships should be the norm. Be as long as we continue to make it the exception. People will continue to expect the exceptional to be the only ones providing it.Â
Watch The Video Below. Aziz Explain Loyalty is our relationship in great detail.Â
Joy Is A Requirement In Our Relationships
Joy Is A Requirement In Our Relationships!Â
Why shouldn’t it be?Â
We all join relationships for security, and a part of security is making sure Joy always exists in all our relationships. There will be pain, trials, disagreement, but the destination should always be Joy.Â
Joy Is A Requirement
We Choose Relationships That Bring Us Joy – We attract people who appeal to our selfish wants, desires, and needs. We should want people in our lives. Not out of necessity but simply because they are motivated by our Joy. We want people because they suit us.
Bring Others Joy –Â We also attract people because we fulfill a want, desire, need in others. We gravitate to particular people because they give us purpose. We are dedicated to their Joy. Joy Is A Requirement
Do We Share Enough Interest – Joy in relationships is predicated on shared interest. What makes Joyous relationships isn’t our interest but the interest we have in common with others. We must share interests that are important to everyone involved. If we don’t have shared interests, the relationship would be forced and ultimately dissolve.Â
Define What Joy Means – This should have been on the top of the list. Define your term. What does Joy mean? If we don’t understand what Joy means to us, can we expect others to provide it? No! So, sit down and have a clear definition of what Joy means to you.Â
So remember, Joy, Is A Requirement In Our Relationships.Â
Watch the video below. Aziz explains further how Joy is a requirement in our relationships.
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by The LoveSnobsÂ
Loyalty Goes Both Ways In Relationships
Loyalty Goes Both Ways In Relationships discusses the importance of embracing Loyalty as a two-sided concept. We expected the people who we betrayal to be loyal. Yet, where was the Loyalty before we acted against the commitment? If they decide to walk away from our disloyalty actions, it isn’t an act of disloyalty. It is an act of virtue. They are placing the integrity of the agreement above their desire to continue the relationship. We have to want to be in accountable relationships.
Aziz Discussed Three Points About How Loyalty Goes Both Ways In Relationships.
Loyalty Isn’t One-sided – When we enter any commitment, agreement, relationship, it is with the intention we are going to honor our word. We shouldn’t be loyal to the person as much as the agreement we promised to maintain. So, when anybody goes outside of the contract, they are disloyal, which means there is no longer an agreement to honor by the betrayed part/s. The maintenance of being loyal is not a one-sided affair!
How Was Loyalty Taught – We hear people repeatedly express their disappointment in people not sticking by them. Yet, not once do they ask themselves what did I do to push people away. We teach Loyalty as about holding on to relationships through repeated disappointment. It isn’t loyal. It unhealthy practices passed from generation to generation. Being loyal is thinking about our agreements and relationships before we act against them.
Remember Loyalty Is – We must never forget we choose the people we want to go through life with, and they’re choosing us. We build our relationships because we believe they will enhance our quality of life. Loyalty is a big part of our connections, so define what being loyal is in your relationships.
Enjoy the Video below and Listen, Learn, and Apply
Let’s Talk About Fatigue And How To Still Connect In Your Relationships
Let’s Talk About Fatigue And How To Still Connect In Your Relationships is a message on the move about not dealing with fatigue alone. Fatigue is a physical ailment but a mental and emotional deterrent in our relationships. Jerri explains why it is essential to let people in instead of shutting them out. When fatigue sets in, follow these four steps to preserve the health of your relationships.Â
First Step:Â
The first step is “being mindful of your mood.” As soon as you wake up, reflect on your mood and the mood you want. Strive for the spirit you want to be in because feeling fatigued means we have to be more mindful of our behavior.
Step Two:
The second step is to “reach out and express your mood.” It would be best if you didn’t hide how you are feeling. If fatigue is setting in, opening up to someone, tell them how you feel. The goal should be searching for ways to shake the feeling and get back to being your best.Â
Step Three:Â
The third step is to “honor your commitments.” When fatigue is setting in for whatever reason, think about your promises to ours. Use those promises as motivation to get out of bed and joy life. If you can do it for yourself, do it because you value your relationships.Â
Step Four:
The fourth step is “ask for help.” Suppose you have things you have to get done in the day. Ask someone if they can assist you. It’s okay to say I need support. Whether you need to rest or cross one more thing from your list of responsibilities, it all helps. So, ask for assistance!
Keep in mind, Love Is A Group Journey, and if you are struggling with fatigue, don’t be afraid to follow all four steps. Your relationships will thank you for it. Let’s Continue to Talk About Fatigue And How To Still Connect In Your Relationships
Play the video below for more detailsÂ
Listen, Learn, and Apply!
By TheLoveSnobs
Lean Into Our Relationships For AccountableLove
Lean into our relationships for AccountableLove is a podcast all about leaning in when you’re afraid. The LoveSnobs examine five reasons people tend to fear leaning into their relationships. The five ways are heartbreak, death, happiness, commitment, and Love.Â
We tend to close up when we are most vulnerable when it’s time to open up more. Â
Heartbreak: We are still breathing, but we feel like we are dying. Heartbreak causes us to retreat in our minds and lose track of our hearts. The pain is so intense and actual. We start to question everyone in our life, but they are the people who should be supporting us. The pain is a sign we need to lean in, not close up. The LoveSnobs will give tips and encouragement regarding how to lean into our relationships during heartbreak.Â
Death:Â Â When someone we Love passes away. Our heart leaves our chest, and we can’t comprehend the loss in our minds. Either we are in a state depressive or denial state. Communication is the last thought. Yet, it is the healthiest course of action ( no matter how many people state the opposite.) Lean into your friends, spouse, and family.Â
Happiness:Â So many people avoid happiness because they connect it to boredom. We watch many shows where “happy people” are obnoxious. Therefore, when we feel any signs of joy. We default to drama. Our state of happiness isn’t the end. It is the beginning. Lean into your satisfaction and try the maintain it over a lifetime.Â
Commitment:Â What is the goal in relationships? Is it to remain alone for a lifetime, jumping from one relationship to the next? or is it to find people to build a relationship. Commitment is the goal, not a prison. We have to start seeing calling people our friends and someone our spouse as the destination. Lean into our relationships! Settle down, unpack, and see your future.
Love:Â Â Love, the famous want but fear! We are scared to say it for two reasons; fear of pushing someone away or disappointing someone. Guess what? If Love is present, they will reciprocate the faith, and you would disappoint someone you Love (not intentional) So, what’s the fear? Nothing! It is all in our heads. I Love you means we are both invested in making things work. Don’t run! Walk forward!
These five reasons are why The LoveSnobs believe most of us fear leaning in. This podcast gives some reason to lean into our relationships for AccountableLove when you are going through heartbreak and death, experiencing happiness, working toward a commitment, and ready to honor Love.Â
So Lean into the Podcast and Listen, Learn, and Apply!