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Lean Into Our Relationships For AccountableLove
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Lean into our relationships for AccountableLove is a podcast all about leaning in when you’re afraid. The LoveSnobs examine five reasons people tend to fear leaning into their relationships. The five ways are heartbreak, death, happiness, commitment, and Love.
We tend to close up when we are most vulnerable when it’s time to open up more.
Heartbreak: We are still breathing, but we feel like we are dying. Heartbreak causes us to retreat in our minds and lose track of our hearts. The pain is so intense and actual. We start to question everyone in our life, but they are the people who should be supporting us. The pain is a sign we need to lean in, not close up. The LoveSnobs will give tips and encouragement regarding how to lean into our relationships during heartbreak.
Death: When someone we Love passes away. Our heart leaves our chest, and we can’t comprehend the loss in our minds. Either we are in a state depressive or denial state. Communication is the last thought. Yet, it is the healthiest course of action ( no matter how many people state the opposite.) Lean into your friends, spouse, and family.
Happiness: So many people avoid happiness because they connect it to boredom. We watch many shows where “happy people” are obnoxious. Therefore, when we feel any signs of joy. We default to drama. Our state of happiness isn’t the end. It is the beginning. Lean into your satisfaction and try the maintain it over a lifetime.
Commitment: What is the goal in relationships? Is it to remain alone for a lifetime, jumping from one relationship to the next? or is it to find people to build a relationship. Commitment is the goal, not a prison. We have to start seeing calling people our friends and someone our spouse as the destination. Lean into our relationships! Settle down, unpack, and see your future.
Love: Love, the famous want but fear! We are scared to say it for two reasons; fear of pushing someone away or disappointing someone. Guess what? If Love is present, they will reciprocate the faith, and you would disappoint someone you Love (not intentional) So, what’s the fear? Nothing! It is all in our heads. I Love you means we are both invested in making things work. Don’t run! Walk forward!
These five reasons are why The LoveSnobs believe most of us fear leaning in. This podcast gives some reason to lean into our relationships when you are going through heartbreak and death, experiencing happiness, working toward a commitment, and ready to honor Love.
So Lean into the Podcast and Listen, Learn, and Apply!
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What’s Your Top Four Core Values
What’s Your Top Four Core Values
Before developing Accountable Relationships, we must first know our top four core values. As Accountable Relationship Builders, our first sessions are about matching our builders to the suitable core values.
Why?
Our core values are who we are. They make our decision for us. How we select our friends and spouses and raise our children is based on our Core Values. It gives us an understanding of what our builder/s hold valuable and allows us to assist them with being their support.
Core Values are our moral fiber. We all think we regret betraying people. Yet, we don’t care if we don’t cross our core values. In most circumstances, the regret comes from betraying our core values and, in the process betraying the person.
It’s essential to know your Core Values.
We chose four core values because:
- Four is the foundation of a home
- Four are East, West, South, North
- If we have four people standing back to back, we can see every vantage point.
Now select your top four Core Values and start examining yourself and your relationships.
16 Core Values
Accountable – I believe it is essential to say I am wrong and right when I am right. I also hold the people around me to the same standard. It is hard for me to respect anyone who is not humble when proven wrong or steadfast when correct.
Dependable – My word means the world to me. Dependability is one of my four core values because actions accompany my words. When I say I am coming, I will show up. In reverse, once I say I am not coming, I most likely will not attend. People can count on me to honor my words with matching actions.
Integrity – I believe in doing the right thing whether someone is watching. Any system that works, I will do everything to uphold that system. I do not care what the masses are doing. I understand the importance of structure and making sure it is honored.
Mindful – Studying people fuels me. I take pride in understanding other people’s likes, dislikes, needs, wants, and desires. Bringing others Joy, providing comfort, and encouraging them in their lives is a big part of my identity. I make sure I think of the pros and cons before using My words and acting.
Faithful – I believe that honoring a commitment is more significant than appeasing people. I understand that systems run people; people do not run systems. So, when I sign up for an agreement, I will live that agreement. I am serious about protecting my promises.
Trustworthy – I volunteer information. I am big on being transparent and value the comfort of certainty or close to it. I am unafraid to be an open book because if people can trust me when I am present, they can trust me when I am not.
Honorable – I am proactive. So, putting myself in any position which compromises my good character is not an option. I don’t respond based on how I feel. Most of my responses must make long-term sense. I believe in putting people in the best positions to succeed. It is just the right way to live.
Honest – Hurt feelings, short-term consequences, or disconnections are not my preoccupation; therefore, Honesty is one of my four core values. If it means lying, I will risk it to avoid being deceptive. Being candid is not a bad thing at all. I think it is a great attribute. I believe people should speak their thoughts and allow chemistry to dictate the survival of our relationships.
Empathy – I can talk to a person and see it from their vantage point. When I listen, I listen to understand, not from one side, but in search of validity. I am impartial, even if the outcome does not suit me personally.
Straightforward – Being genuine is especially important to me. I walk into every room and challenge people to accept everything I am unwilling to change and will not apologize for it. It is not about being frank. It is about providing choice.
Purposeful – I see relationships as faith. I cannot connect with anyone that does not see the big picture. Everything I do has long-term gain, even if there is a short-term loss. I am motivated by the idea that I am working toward something greater than myself.
Confidence – I embrace challenges. I am the first to check someone, volunteer for something most would deem terrifying, and I will call myself out in a crowd. I do not worry about being isolated if it means standing up for my convictions.
Fair – I believe people should get what they deserve. Fairness is one of my four core values because I presume people will get what they put in. I understand that best practice does not necessarily equate to absolute right or wrong. Yet, I know decisions have to be made. I am not intimidated by decision-making. Measuring the facts with circumstances is how I formulate my conclusions.
Determined – I will see it through when I set my mind to something. I am outcome-driven. I tackle it from beginning to end. Asking questions, doing research, listening, or speaking, I do what it takes. I am not satisfied until my goals are complete.
Loyal – I do not believe in committing to people. I buy into agreements and destinations. I will never leave anyone behind if I promise to bring them home. Loyalty cannot exist within one entity, so I assure you it is reciprocated.
Reasonable – Having all the information before deciding is crucial to me. I take pride in doing what is best for everyone, not just one person. Arguing for a solution is my goal. I enjoy problem-solving and refuse to move forward until I have a resolution.
Choose Your Four Core Values and Live Through them.
They are the best of you!
Is Ego Your Drug Of Choice?
Is Ego Your Drug of Choice in your relationships? We used the term “drug of choice” because the ego is a way people escape from the responsibilities of their relationships. We understand there are more than four ways people can be egotistical in their relationships. The LoveSnobs choose to highlight these four ways people can be display ego because they get overlooked frequently. Read each description and see if it describes you or someone you are currently in a relationship with.
Four Ego Traits That Effect Our Relationships
The Deflectors:
The Deflector’s ego doesn’t allow them to take responsibility for their wrongs in relationships. They are the “We are all human and are capable of mistakes” person. They state the obvious. The deflector shields themselves from accountability by discussing what wrongs everyone else displayed or others have done. When it’s time to discuss all the reasons they acted selfishly, they state they did want to be judged. Implying that the other person is hard to be honest with, meaning that person is why they couldn’t be straightforward in the first place.
The Martyr:
The Martyr is the opposite of the deflector. Their ego doesn’t allow them to hold people accountable in their relationships. They avoid conflict by taking on all the problems themselves. The Martyr acts like they are the bigger and better person for remaining in unhealthy relationships. They are the man or the woman that stayed for 30 years because their faith demanded it. Shouldn’t the person that dragged you through the mud honor that faith as well? They tend to push good people away to maintain their unhealthy relationships. Saying they aren’t judgmental to avoid holding people accountable.
The Self-Loather:
The Self-Loather’s ego poisons themselves, therefore poisoning their relationships. They are the “I hate myself so nobody else can hate me” person. They commit acts of relationship sabotage. You can’t hold them accountable because they already beat themselves up by isolating themselves, taking a substance, or saying they need help when they aren’t going to follow through. They get stuck in negative cycles.
The perspective person:
The Perspective person is the politician. Their ego will not allow them to give definitive answers, but they challenge those who do. They are the person who wants to see all side but refuses to make to make a decision. It is cool to look at all sides before making decisions, but we must make decisions in relationships. They lead from behind and label every decision-maker as lacking flexibility or adaptability but will not make decisions regarding other people. They are the“commitment are restrictive” people but want to be other people’s priority.
These are only four ways the Ego can affect our relationships. The Lovesnobs hope reading these descriptives helps you identify issues and make the changes to build healthier and more accountable relationships.
Read, Learn, and Apply
By The LoveSnobs
If you need assistance with your Ego, The LoveSnobs will partner with you.
Are You An Accountable Parent?
Are You An Accountable Parent? As parents, we decided to have children without their vote. They don’t choose to have life, but we expect them to be grateful we gave them life. As parents, we believe our children owe us for given birth to them. When it is the opposite, we owe them for allowing us to be parents.
Our children will ultimately show their gratitude when they become adults themselves, acknowledging all that we put into their upbringing and are ready to have children themselves. And the cycle continues! Our gratitude will come solely from the adults our children become. How they forge relationships, and they become Accountable Adults and parent themselves. Isn’t this the goal?
This podcast asks the question,
Are You An Accountable Parent?
To answer that question,
we must ask and answer six questions:
- Do you have support?
Support is an accountable parent’s best friend. Suppose we couldn’t give ourselves a chance to breathe. We will unintentionally suffocate our children. Love Is A Group Journey and Raise Children Takes A Village!
- Do You Acknowledge Your children’s Strengths and Weaknesses?
Never become blind to your children’s strengths or weaknesses. See them in their entirety. Please get to know them fully to support them where they need support and encourage them where all they need is encouragement.
- Making Sure Your Child Has A Voice?
Children should be seen, and they need to be heard. As they develop, we must develop as parents. No more, Do it all for them. It becomes more of giving and take. Allow your children to become part of the process.
- Are you and Your Children on the same page?
We should encourage everyone to get on the same page. Not just our children but every adult who is in their lives. Our children must be getting the same message from multiply voices. Direction is the key to decision making.!
- Do you understand the stage of development?
It may be a cliche, but Knowledge is a superpower. Understanding each development benchmark makes you a superhero. They will assist you with making informed decisions when issues arise. Yes, people are different, but we all have similarities, which allows us to predict behavior. Arm yourself!
- Are You Mindful of The Parent-Child Dynamic?
What is the Parent-Child Dynamic? It is a relationship between a child and parent/s. The Parent-child relationship is an investment into our legacy and the framework of conceiving an accountable adult. It recognizes that we are an us, and we both enhance each other’s quality of life.
So, Are You An Accountable Parent?
If not, listen to this podcast and start working on becoming one.
Listen, Learn, and Apply!
Are You An Accountable Parent?
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Are You An Accountable Parent? As parents, we decided to have children without their vote. They don’t choose to have life, but we expect them to be grateful we gave them life. As parents, we believe our children owe us for given birth to them. When it is the opposite, we owe them for allowing us to be parents.
Our children will ultimately show their gratitude when they become adults themselves when they acknowledge all that we put into their upbringing and are ready to have children themselves. And the cycle continues! Our gratitude will come solely from the adults our children become. How they forge relationships, and they become Accountable Adults and parent themselves. Isn’t this the goal?
This podcast asks the question,
Are You An Accountable Parent?
To answer that question,
we must ask and answer six questions:
- Do you have support?
Support is an accountable parent’s best friend. Suppose we couldn’t give ourselves a chance to breathe. We will unintentionally suffocate our children. Love Is A Group Journey and Raise Children Takes A Village!
- Do You Acknowledge Your children’s Strengths and Weaknesses?
Never become blind to your children’s strengths or weaknesses. See them in their entirety. Please get to know them fully to support them where they need support and encourage them where all they need is encouragement.
- Making Sure Your Child Has A Voice?
Children should be seen, and they need to be heard. As they develop, we must develop as parents. No more, Do it all for them. It becomes more of giving and take. Allow your children to become part of the process.
- Are you and Your Children on the same page?
We should encourage everyone to get on the same page. Not just our children but every adult who is in their lives. Our children must be getting the same message from multiply voices. Direction is the key to decision making.!
- Do you understand the stage of development?
It may be a cliche, but Knowledge is a superpower. Understanding each development benchmark makes you a superhero. They will assist you with making informed decisions when issues arise. Yes, people are different, but we all have similarities, which allows us to predict behavior. Arm yourself!
- Are You Mindful of The Parent-Child Dynamic?
What is the Parent-Child Dynamic? It is a relationship between a child and parent/s. The Parent-child relationship is an investment into our legacy and the framework of conceiving an accountable adult. It recognizes that we are an us, and we both enhance each other’s quality of life.
So, Are You An Accountable Parent?
If not, listen to this podcast and start working on becoming one.
Listen, Learn, and Apply!
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Lets Be Clear Here with Mahagony B
Lets be clear here with Mahagony B. The LoveSnobs are joined again by Mahagony B. of Mo’ Art Entertainment. If you watched all four seasons of The AccountableLove Podcast, you know Mahagony because she appeared every season. So, it only fits she be the first guest on season four, “Let’s Be Clear Here!”
The LoveSnobs ask Mahagony on the podcast to discuss the importance of “being clear” in our relationships. They also discuss how that clarity starts with matching Core Values. They discuss parenting, friendships, and partnerships. Mahagony expresses the joys and disappointments in building these relationships.
Mahagony’s Relationships
First, Mahagony shares her connection with her two adult daughters and how both daughters take different paths to build their core values. She was a young parent and wanted her children to have a strong foundation. While creating that foundation, she played the bad guy. She endured her children, calling her closed-minded, rigid, and unfair. As Adults, they now see the method to her madness.
Next, The LoveSnobs and Mahagony discuss building friendships. She recently challenged herself to complete a week of silence. During her silence, she realized how much her friend depended on her voice. She also noticed how angry they got when she was at their beck and called, causing her to rethink her approach to picking friends.
Last, They broached the topic of romantic partnerships. Mahagony stated she was stuck between meeting women who share her sense of humor or her core values. They never had both. She also discusses today’s dating scene, being a hopeful romantic, and never losing hope in finding a romantic partner.
Lets be clear here with Mahagony B isn’t just one woman’s relationship journey. It is one woman using her journey to encourage more people to build Accountable Relationships, hopefully.
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Let’s Be Clear Here With Mahagony B
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Let’s be clear here with Mahagony B. The LoveSnobs are joined again by Mahagony B. of Mo’ Art Entertainment. If you watched all four seasons of The AccountableLove Podcast, you know Mahagony because she appeared every season. So, it only fits she be the first guest on season four, “Let’s Be Clear Here!”
The LoveSnobs ask Mahagony on the podcast to discuss the importance of “being clear” in our relationships. They also discuss how that clarity starts with matching Core Values. They discuss parenting, friendships, and partnerships. Mahagony expresses the joys and disappointments in building these relationships.
Mahagony’s Relationships
First, Mahagony shares her connection with her two adult daughters and how both daughters take different paths to build their core values. She was a young parent and wanted her children to have a strong foundation. While creating that foundation, she played the bad guy. She endured her children, calling her closed-minded, rigid, and unfair. As Adults, they now see the method to her madness.
Next, The LoveSnobs and Mahagony discuss building friendships. She recently challenged herself to complete a week of silence. During her silence, she realized how much her friend depended on her voice. She also noticed how angry they got when she was at their beck and called, causing her to rethink her approach to picking friends.
Last, They broached the topic of romantic partnerships. Mahagony stated she was stuck between meeting women who share her sense of humor or her core values. They never had both. She also discusses today’s dating scene, being a hopeful romantic, and never losing hope in finding a romantic partner.
Lets be clear here with Mahagony B isn’t just one woman’s relationship journey. It is one woman using her journey to encourage more people to build Accountable Relationships, hopefully.
Join The Discussion Listen, Learn, and Apply
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We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships
“We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships!” The Lovesnobs (Aziz & Jerri) never make any statements without explaining. This Podcast will provide that explanation. Take a step back. How many people do we see justifying why they lie or are being lied to or avoiding relationships altogether because people lie? Too many!
We decided to discuss this topic because it’s time to repair our expectations. People do lie, but the person you are starting relationships with has not lied to you. We shouldn’t enter any connections creating the standard so low. Yes, high expectations mean the fall is more significant. Yet, we must believe we deserve the best.
The LoveSnobs always start at the top and work never to fall. We encourage everyone to join us. Accountable Relationships are all about peaks and spending a lifetime preventing the valleys. In this podcast, The LoveSnobs will answer four questions.
- Why Do We Expect Lies
- Why Do We Accept Lies
- Is Lying to Tool and our Intentions The Problem
- How Can We Have More Honest Relationships
Answering these four questions will help people be more mindful while encouraging our listens to be a part of genuine relationships.
So, enjoy the podcast, “We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships!” Listen, Learn, and Apply
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We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships
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“We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships!” The Lovesnobs (Aziz & Jerri) never make any statements without explaining. This Podcast will provide that explanation. Take a step back. How many people do we see justifying why they lie or are being lied to or avoiding relationships altogether because people lie? Too many!
We decided to discuss this topic because it’s time to repair our expectations. People do lie, but the person you are starting relationships with has not lied to you. We shouldn’t enter any connections creating the standard so low. Yes, high expectations mean the fall is more significant. Yet, we must believe we deserve the best.
The LoveSnobs always start at the top and work never to fall. We encourage everyone to join us. Accountable Relationships are all about peaks and spending a lifetime preventing the valleys. In this podcast, The LoveSnobs will answer four questions.
- Why Do We Expect Lies
- Why Do We Accept Lies
- Is Lying to Tool and our Intentions The Problem
- How Can We Have More Honest Relationships
Answering these four questions will help people be more mindful while encouraging our listens to be a part of genuine relationships.
So, enjoy the podcast, “We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships!” Listen, Learn, and Apply
Join The Discussion
We Can Prolong Life By Having Healthy Relationships
We can Prolong life by having healthy relationships. We exercise to maintain health, build muscle mass for strength, and to feel great.
The LoveSnobs ask do want healthy relationships for the same reasons.
- Is It The Feeling That Motivates Us
Are we entering relationships because they make us feel good? We meet someone who matches our interest, and we enjoy their company. Is that what keeps us around?
- Is It The Need To Survive
Are we joining relationships because we need people? Believe it or not, people do start relationships out of necessity. They surround themselves with people who fulfill a need.
- Are You In Relationships To Maintain Your Legacy
Do you want healthy relationships for generational factors? People are always watching, especially our youth. Having healthy relationships can change how they cultivate relationships themselves.
- Can You Live With Changes
Can you adapt to change? Change is absolute. It will occur whether we like it or not. We must have the foundation in place to succeed in transition.
- Think About Why You Want Healthy Relationships
Are you in healthy Relationships? The LoveSnobs want you to think about the reason you decided to connect with others. Be honest, is it for a feel, survival, legacy, or all of the above.
The LoveSnobs expand on all five points in this video.
They also want you (the viewer) to start thinking about why we exercise to stay in physical shape without sharing life with people. Healthy Relationships don’t just prolong our lives, but they enhance our quality of life.
