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Our Relationships Are A Corporation
Our Relationships are a Corporation! Aziz explains how our Accountable relationships (spouses, Friends, and Children) as our corporation. People chase money but forget about their relationships. Well, if we start looking at our relationships as a corporation. We will start valuing our investments in our relationships.
You & Your Spouse Are CEOs
When entering a romantic partnership, we should see them as someone we build a lifelong commitment to. We are merging friends, children, and families. Our life becomes their life. If we can see them as lifetime partners, we should be committing to them.
Friends Are Our Investors
First off, our romantic partners are investors because they are building and sustaining the corporation. But, our friends the investors. They are not tied to us romantically, but they have a lifetime stake in the success dreams. They want to see our corporation succeed not just because they are our friends also because when we nurtured, they nurtured.
Our Children Are Our Legacy
We look around us, and we have picked the right CEO, the best investors, now we are ready to pass on the Legacy. We have children so they can heir all the work we gave to the world. We want them to have the blueprint to finding the right CEO, the best investors, and the perfect corporation.
The LoveSnobs want everyone to see their relationships as their corporation, and building Accountable Relationships will make for a more productive life.
Aziz Breaks it down further in the video below. Watch it and start building your corporation with Accountable Relationships.
Women, What Do You Mean By Broke Man?
In the latest Relationship Messages on the Move: Woman, what do you mean by broke man? In the video below, Aziz asks women what do they mean by not wanting a broke man. He had this discussion with several women, listened to women online, and read several posts and articles about women being tired of a “Broke Man.” As a result, Aziz asks three questions and explains where he agrees.
1) Is It About A Financial Equal?
2) Is It About Financial Dependency?
3) Is it Them Being broken?
Is A “Broke Man” About A Financial Equal?
Are women saying they need someone who can match their financial success? Women who have rolled up their sleeves and build their financial means and want someone else who can carry their own financially. As a result, they don’t want someone to take care of them and don’t want to take care of anyone else.
Is It About A Financial Dependency?
Are women saying they want someone to take care of them financially? They want a man willing to fund their lifestyle and work hard while they play harder.
 Is It About Being Broken?
Are women saying they don’t want a broken man? For instance, A man who comes into the relationship with bags of issues. Past cheating habits, lack of ambition, inability to express themselves, or no trust in women (Trust issues).
Aziz explains if it is the Latter, he understands.
Watch the video and tell us what you think.
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Surrounding Yourself With Great People Is Self-Help
Surrounding yourself with great people is self-help. Self-help is discussed on social media, blogs and has become a relationship genre, but we can’t understand ourselves without interacting with other people. Surrounding yourself with great people is self-help. You are helping yourself with great friends, a great spouse, and great children. Ultimately you are a better “you” when surrounded by great people.
Other People Cover Our Blind Stops:
In the video below, Aziz explains how building a village will increase the likelihood of improving self-awareness. He breaks down how others cover our blind spots. We can’t look in front and behind us at the same time. We need people to express our bad habits and reassure our good ones. How can we genuinely evaluate ourselves with two sets of eyes? Multiple eys are better.
You Decide Who Is in Your Life:
As adults, we decide who is in our daily lives. When having the wrong people in our lives, Aziz states we start to see the world through our companies’ eyes. If they complain, we find ourselves whining or complaining about them complaining. It would be best if we always remembered self-help means keeping the right company in the present. Let’s build a group of people on the same page and have positive outlooks on life because multiple eyes are only effective when they are not ineffective.
Are You In Accountable Relationships?
When we have Accountable Relationships, everyone is comfortable with lift one another. We have challenging discussions until their resolution, discuss anything with conviction, and have the security of knowing there are always people in our lives rooting for us. Why would we be worried about building ourselves when we have built a team?
Surrounding yourself with great people is self-help. You are helping yourself with great friends, a great spouse, and great children.
Enjoy the Video! It would give you further clarity.
Are You Giving Up On Building Relationships?
Are You Giving up on building relationships?
 Giving up on building relationships is not the best of you. Don’t allow pain to make your relationship decisions.
If you started your life wanting to connect with others, but now you don’t, you are leading with pain. It is not the process of bonding that’s hurting you; It’s the people you are building relationships with that have fatigued you.
Don’t blame the tool; blame the person using the tool.
You are in pain because you are carrying more of the relationship than you signed up to accept. You are fatigued because you have been doing it longer than excepted. Both of the previous sentences start with you because it is you who are allowing this to happen. Giving up on building relationships shouldn’t be a decision you make in pain.
Take a moment to think:
What did I do wrong?
You will have people say, ” There isn’t anything you did wrong; it is them.” Look those people in the face and be accountable.
1) I chose them.
2) I built relationships with them.
3) I decided to stay in a relationship with them.
Then to move forward, believe and say, “I have to fix my approach by selecting people to join Accountable Relationships with me.”
Now, it isn’t all you.
You might have been honorable, but was it reciprocal?
You may have been loyal, but was it a boomerang?
You may have held up your end of every agreement, did they?
Ultimately, search for relationships that enhance everyone involved. Continue looking until you find relationships worth maintaining. Giving up on building relationships should never be an option.
Just say, “I want to be in Accountable Relationships.”
“I want Relationships where every person is equally invested in the maintenance of the relationship. I refuse to be emotionally fatigued by carrying the entire relationship.” Once you make that promise to yourself, keep that promise.
How do you keep that promise?
1) Start with acknowledging your worth:
Build bonds with people who see your value, not just for what you bring to their life but what they give to yours. Accountable Relationships are never about me, but we. The only time they are about me is when you must walk away to find a new We. Remember, Love, Is A Group Journey, and building valuable relationships are about buying into the title’s investments (friend, partner, or family).
2) Stop being afraid to look close-minded:
Stand for something. Like minds will see the reasoning behind your convictions and buy-in. They will encourage you to have firm boundaries because they do. They will appreciate the gravity so everyone can walk together.
3) Be vulnerable:
Don’t hold anything back. Vulnerability is a superpower, and the only people who see it as a weakness are those who are afraid to be vulnerable themselves. When someone says, they don’t want to share, respect it, but don’t accept it. Vulnerability is a must.
4) Never lose sight of the destination:
Make long-term plans and work on them together. Take the time to sit down and discuss what each person wants to accomplish and the role each party plays to accomplish those goals. We should be a participant in everyone’s purpose. Sign up for a position and do your part. Remember, set the destinations and never lose sight.
So Are You Giving Up On Building Relationships?
No, start to build yourself Accountable Relationships!
Jerri AccountableLove Relationship Weather Report
Relationship Weather Report.
Jerri has an AccountableLove Relationship Weather Report. In our relationships, storms will come, but it should not be normal practice to weather storms. We should be playing in the snow, not allowing it to bury our relationships. Jerri will explain how Snow Storm 2021 should bring your relationships closer, not make us cold. So, Listen, Learn, and Apply because this AccountableLove Relationship Weather Report is a reminder that we control how we deal with the storms.
Building Accountable Relationships
Commitment Equals Communication
Commitment Equals Communication.
When we decide to become someone’s friend or spouse, we are making a conscious decision to share our Joy, Pain, Progress, and Setbacks. We have agreed to put aside selfish wants to build something greater than ourselves. This means no secrets in relationships. Commitment Equals Communication. Building Accountable Relationships starts with honoring this very agreement and maintaining TRUST.
So, if we think, “should I share this?” We are already breaking the contract of choice.
Before destroying TRUST within your relationships, communicate!
Ask yourself FOUR questions:
1) Why would I do anything I could not share with my friend or spouse?
2)Why would I have to question if it is okay to share this with my friend or spouse?
3) Why did I commit to anyone when I cannot communicate openly?
4) Would I want my friend or spouse to tell me? (And don’t trick yourself into saying “NO” because you’re the person wearing the shoes).
Don’t Hesitate!
Communicate
and Communicate again!
Starting the Communication is always a text, dial tone, or an open mouth away. Keep in mind, bestowing thoughts will start a more significant discussion. Don’t think about sharing. Share. See what happens!
Commitment Equals Communication is what allows us to build Accountable Relationships. What separates a friend or spouse from just anyone else in the world? Our willingness to want to share our thoughts, actions, and faithful with one another. How is it a connection if it’s missing the desire to communicate?
It’s not!
Secrets in relationships:
Secrets in Relationships hurt us. So, why do so many people subscribe to the idea “It’s okay to keep secrets?” Is it because we know our secrets will push our loved ones away? Or is it because we would walk away if we were them? We tend to lack Communication due to self-doubt. Confident people tend to share.
Some will say, “they tend to over-share.” Whatever we may think about outspoken people, they got it right! We should be confident in our relationship’s ability to overcome anything we need to say. At least, we should believe the other person should have a chance to make that decision. We guarantee (which is more likely) they will TRUST you more for telling them than hearing it from someone else.
What is a commitment built on secrets? People who are strangers pretending to commit.
Therefore, let’s start genuinely being friends and spouses because Commitment Equals Communication.
The LoveSnobs
The LoveSnobs Honor Dr Martin Luther King Jr
The LoveSnobs Honor Dr Martin Luther King Jr,
Love is a Group Journey is the only way to demonstrate that Love means standing for something greater than oneself. Martin Luther King Jr embodied that message by asking people to look beyond skin color to see a person’s soul. We are still striving for America’s promise of all individuals “being created equal.”
The struggle will continue until Love becomes everyone’s faith. We honor a visionary and soldier of inspiration today. Martin Luther King Jr asked a nation to stand together, not against people but a fallacious idea. The concept that profit is more valuable than a person’s heartbeat. Well, The LoveSnobs believe people are the actual currency. King Jr urged people to close their eyes and listen for intentions. He was more than a black man fighting for black rights. He was a person who challenged humanity in all of humanity.
The LoveSnobs Honor Dr Martin Luther King Jr on his national holiday because we would not have the ability to support people’s relationships if he didn’t persist. If he and innumerable others didn’t pave the way. We say “Thank You” for dying so we can live a little less constricted.
Building Accountable Relationships starts with Four Questions
A foundation is essential when Building Accountable Relationships (friendships and Romantic partnerships). Building Accountable Relationships starts with Four Questions.
1) What is your faith?
We should always know what our friends and partners believe. It allows us to understand our convictions are aligned. A person’s faith defines the standard of the village they build. Our beliefs make us the best version of ourselves. We deserve the best of our friends or partners. Knowing their devotions allows us to bring out the best in each other. Long-term connection depends more on agreeing to a set of beliefs over-committing to a person/people. The most important part of an Accountable Relationship is setting standards that allow us to hold each other accountable and flourish as a union.
2) Who are the most important people in your life?
We are never just entering a relationship with one person. We are entering a relationship with the people close to that person. So, before calling someone, your friend, or partner, meet the people closest to them. If we decided to forge a commitment, these people would be in our lives. They are not competitors; they are new teammates. It won’t be easy to co-exist if you don’t like the people closest to a potential friend or romantic partner. The painless part is getting to know the potential friend or partner; the challenging part is getting to know everyone they hold dear. But you must! Never talk yourself into skipping this step. It is necessary to Build Accountable Relationships.
3) What are you not willing to change (Your Convictions)?
Again, measuring a person’s conviction is essential. Commitment is more about maintaining a standard than changing our stances. We all will change qualities about ourselves (ideally for the better) when merging with another person/people. What is your identity? The several attributes that make you recognizable. The LoveSnobs call them “Core Values.” If you are honest, allow your honesty to attract people that find it refreshing. If you are a nurturer, never change that quality because people have taken advantage of it in the past. Search for the people who will nurture the nurturer in you. Connect with people without asking them to compromise their identity.
(If you are wondering the difference between the first and the third questions, look at “Faith” as the home association. An agreement everyone agreed to honor, which allows the group to be accountable. Look at identity as a home. It’s a distinct structure, personally decorated, yet still a piece enhanced by the home association. )
4) What brings you Joy?
If you don’t know what gives a person Joy, how can you bring joy to their lives? The entire reason for committing to any relationship is receiving and providing daily Joy. Do you want to be in a relationship with someone that is never satisfied? No! So don’t guess. Ask the person/people, “What brings you Joy?” Get a clear vision of whether you can assist or provide Joy. If the answer is yes, get creative and spontaneous with the list of Joys. Knowledge equals healthier outcomes.
Building Accountable Relationships starts with Four Questions. Answering these questions builds a strong, healthy, supportive, and loving foundation. If you have the answer to these four questions, you are ready to construct Accountable Relationships.
Thank You Builders
Thank You, Builders,Â
We are grateful! We have builders who come to every session ready to partner, embrace being challenged, and show vulnerability. They inspire us with their courage, not only to ask for support but implement every principle to build their support. Building Accountable Relationships are The LoveSnobs calling card. We take pride in building people beyond the individual. We believe having generous support will ultimately secure an individual’s esteem.Â
Every builder we worked with has been Accountable. They are honest about the pleasures, as well as the challenges they have brought to each of their relationships. They have honored their commitment to strengthening all their relationships. Our Builders are having more challenging discussions, removing toxic relationships, and taking ownership of their shortcomings. They have told s they enjoy our sessions because it’s discussion-based. It doesn’t feel one-sided. We explain to our goal is to get people to have more discussions with their Loved ones. So, we mirror these discussions in our sessions. We can solve their problems or guide them to become problem solvers. We thank every one of you for using our partnership to your advantage!
Again Thank you, Builders!
The LoveSnobs
Keep up the Great work!
Why AccountableLove?
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In this group discussion, The LoveSnobs discuss the practice of AccountableLove. They explain their belief in Love and how Love can’t exist without accountability. AccountableLove has four principles Trust, Honesty, Dedication, and Devotion. So, this week on “Let’s Talk Relationships with The LoveSnobs,” They discuss why AccountableLove is the foundation for all our relationships.