Commitment Equals Communication
When we decide to become someone’s friend or spouse, we’re making a conscious choice to share our joy, our pain, our progress, and our setbacks. We’ve agreed to set aside selfish wants to build something greater than ourselves. That means no secrets.
Commitment equals communication. Building Accountable Relationships starts with honoring that agreement and protecting the trust underneath it.
So if you ever catch yourself thinking, “Should I share this?” — you’re already breaking the contract of choice. Before you damage the trust in your relationship, communicate.
Ask Yourself Four Questions
- Why would I do anything I couldn’t share with my friend or spouse?
- Why would I even have to question whether it’s okay to share this with them?
- Why did I commit to anyone I can’t communicate openly with?
- Would I want my friend or spouse to tell me? (And don’t trick yourself into saying no just because you’re the one wearing the shoes.)
Don’t hesitate. Communicate — and communicate again.
Starting the conversation is always a text, a phone call, or an open mouth away. Sharing a thought will start a bigger discussion, and that’s the point. Don’t think about sharing. Share. See what happens.
What Separates A Friend From A Stranger
Commitment equals communication — that’s what lets us build Accountable Relationships. So what actually separates a friend or spouse from anyone else in the world? Our willingness to share our thoughts, our actions, and our faithfulness with one another.
How is it a connection if it’s missing the desire to communicate? It isn’t.
Secrets in relationships:
Secrets hurt us. So why do so many people subscribe to the idea that “it’s okay to keep secrets”? Is it because we know the secret would push our loved ones away? Or because we know we’d walk away if we were them?
We tend to go quiet out of self-doubt. Confident people share. Some will say those people “over-share” — but whatever you think of outspoken people, they got this part right. We should be confident in our relationship’s ability to survive anything we need to say. At the very least, we should believe the other person deserves the chance to decide for themselves.
And here’s what’s more likely to happen: they’ll trust you more for telling them yourself than for letting them hear it from someone else.
So what is a commitment built on secrets? Strangers pretending to commit.
Let’s start genuinely being friends and spouses — because commitment equals communication.
The LoveSnobs
