What’s Your Top Four Core Values

Before we can develop Accountable Relationships, we first have to know our top four core values. As Accountable Relationship Builders, our earliest sessions are about matching each Builder to the core values that actually fit them.

Why?

Because our core values are who we are. They make our decisions for us. How we choose our friends, commit to a spouse, and raise our children all trace back to our core values. Knowing them tells us what a Builder holds valuable — and lets us support them the right way.

Core values are our moral fiber. We tend to think we regret betraying people. But most of the time, we don’t feel much when we haven’t crossed our own values. The real regret comes from betraying a core value — and betraying the person in the process.

That’s why knowing your core values is essential.

Why Four?

We chose four for a reason:

• Four is the foundation of a home.
• Four is East, West, South, and North.
• Four people standing back to back can see every angle.

Now select your top four core values, and start examining yourself and your relationships.

16 Core Values

Accountable –I believe it’s essential to admit when I’m wrong and stand firm when I’m right. I hold the people around me to that same standard. It’s hard for me to respect anyone who can’t stay humble when proven wrong or steadfast when correct.

Dependable –My word means the world to me. Actions accompany my words. When I say I’m coming, I show up. When I say I’m not, I most likely won’t. People can count on me to match my words with action.

Integrity –I do the right thing whether or not someone is watching. If a system works, I’ll do everything to uphold it. I don’t care what the masses are doing — I understand the importance of structure and honoring it.

Mindful –Studying people fuels me. I take pride in understanding what others like, dislike, need, want, and desire. Bringing people joy, offering comfort, and encouraging them is a big part of my identity. I weigh the pros and cons before I use my words or act.

Faithful –Honoring a commitment matters more to me than appeasing people. Systems run people; people don’t run systems. So when I sign up for an agreement, I live that agreement. I’m serious about protecting my promises.

Trustworthy –I volunteer information. I’m big on transparency and value the comfort of certainty. I’m unafraid to be an open book, because if people can trust me when I’m present, they can trust me when I’m not.

Honorable –I’m proactive, so putting myself in any position that compromises my character isn’t an option. I don’t respond based on how I feel; most of my responses have to make long-term sense. I believe in putting people in the best position to succeed. It’s just the right way to live.

Honest – Hurt feelings, short-term consequences, and temporary disconnection don’t preoccupy me — which is why honesty is one of my values. I’d rather risk the discomfort than be deceptive. Being candid isn’t a bad thing; it’s a great one. People should speak their truth and let chemistry decide the survival of the relationship.

Empathy – I can talk to a person and see it from their vantage point. When I listen, I listen to understand — not from one side, but in search of validity. I stay impartial, even when the outcome doesn’t suit me.

Straightforward – Being genuine is especially important to me. I walk into every room challenging people to accept everything I’m unwilling to change — and I won’t apologize for it. It’s not about being blunt. It’s about providing choice.

Purposeful – I see relationships as faith. I can’t connect with anyone who doesn’t see the big picture. Everything I do is for long-term gain, even when there’s a short-term loss. I’m motivated by working toward something greater than myself.

Confidence – I embrace challenges. I’m the first to check someone, to volunteer for what others find terrifying, and to call myself out in a crowd. I don’t fear being isolated if it means standing up for my convictions.

Fair – I believe people should get what they deserve — what they put in. I understand that best practice doesn’t always equal absolute right or wrong, but decisions still have to be made. I’m not intimidated by decision-making. I weigh the facts against the circumstances to reach my conclusions.

Determined – When I set my mind to something, I see it through. I’m outcome-driven and tackle things from beginning to end. Asking questions, researching, listening, speaking — I do what it takes. I’m not satisfied until the goal is complete.

Loyal – I don’t commit to people; I commit to agreements and destinations. I’ll never leave anyone behind if I promised to bring them home. Loyalty can’t exist in one direction, so I make sure it’s reciprocated.

Reasonable – Having all the information before I decide is crucial. I take pride in doing what’s best for everyone, not just one person. Arguing toward a solution is the goal. I enjoy problem-solving, and I refuse to move forward until there’s a resolution.

Choose Your Four

Choose your four core values — and live through them.

They are the best of you.

By The LoveSnobs