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Drama Does Not Equate To Excitement
Drama does not equate to excitement in Accountable Relationships. In this Messages On The Move, Aziz discusses how maintaining the purity of our relationships should be what makes our relationships exciting. The most complex achievement in a changing world is finding stability. When you find peace, why add drama to the relationship? Drama does not equate to excitement in accountable relationships.
Let’s Discuss Four Points on How “Drama Does Not Equate To Excitement In Accountable Relationships:
Why Are You In Relationships?
Our reason for agreeing to be in relationships is to enhance our and other’s lives. If one part of that equation is missing, it is no longer a relationship, and drama ensues. You can be in a healthy and drama-free relationship. The Key is keeping the purpose the primary purpose.
Why Do You See Drama As Being Purposeful?
Many people confuse drama with conflict. In turn, they start to believe drama is purposeful. Conflict is healthy in relationships. People don’t always agree, but they have to have the tool to resolve the disputes, or drama will be the result. Drama doesn’t equal purpose. It equals bad stress. Therefore, drama does not equate to excitement.
Why Do you Connect to Drama?
Drama can be fun/exciting when we watch it on the television or read it in a book. In reality, it sucks the life out of our commitments. Drama isn’t our friend, so we need to stop building a connection to it. Remain focused! Core Values, Joy, Passion are our connecting points.
What Is True Excitement?
Accountable Relationships are True Excitement! True Excitement is waking up with the desire to maintain everything we built with the people we Love. What is more exciting than knowing we are investing our time on earth, honoring the agreements of our relationships. Drama does not equate to excitement in our relationships when we embrace the pleasure of accountability.
Aziz explains further, Why drama does not equate to excitement in Accountable Relationships in the video below. Listen, Learn, and Apply! Enjoy!
Let’s Define Loyalty In Our Relationships and Apply It!
Loyalty In Our Relationships is a Message On The Move about How to Apply Loyalty To All Our Relationships. We tend to believe loyalty means stand by someone once they are in a bind. Loyalty is proactive. It is an agreement to honor the word over the people. We have to be loyal to the relationships we promise to be a part of, not a person’s independent action.
Aziz explains four ways to maintain Loyalty in a relationship.
1) Loyalty Is A Boomerang Like Love –
Loyalty is a commitment to walk together and tackle the unforeseen obstacles that may occur in life. It isn’t a standard to lift someone when they are choosing to jump down. We should throw Loyalty at others, knowing it would come back. Not hoping it will!
2) Honoring The Faith Of Loyalty –
Before we can honor Loyalty in our relationships, we have to understand what Loyalty means. Everyone must enter a relationship saying, “we are ready to keep the relationship healthy” by fully committing to the agreement to be loyal. We can’t commit selfish acts against our relationships and call it “disloyalty” when people walk away for us. We Broke The Contract.
3) Taking A Disloyal Person Back –
Now, there will be times people are disloyal. How can they repair the relationship? They can take ownership of what they did, map out what they will do going forward, and start rebuilding the relationship with consistency. Accountability is always the start but being committed to repairing the hole shows they are ready.
4) Loyalty Is Greater Than Us –
Loyalty isn’t a person. It is people working together to bring the word to life. Loyalty only exists when people agree, walk, and live the agreement. It is who we become through believing in something greater than ourselves—Being loyal in our relationships is one of many foundations. We must practice and preserve it daily.
Loyalty in our relationships should be the norm. Be as long as we continue to make it the exception. People will continue to expect the exceptional to be the only ones providing it.
Watch The Video Below. Aziz Explain Loyalty is our relationship in great detail.
Joy Is A Requirement In Our Relationships
Joy Is A Requirement In Our Relationships!
Why shouldn’t it be?
We all join relationships for security, and a part of security is making sure Joy always exists in all our relationships. There will be pain, trials, disagreement, but the destination should always be Joy.
Joy Is A Requirement
We Choose Relationships That Bring Us Joy – We attract people who appeal to our selfish wants, desires, and needs. We should want people in our lives. Not out of necessity but simply because they are motivated by our Joy. We want people because they suit us.
Bring Others Joy – We also attract people because we fulfill a want, desire, need in others. We gravitate to particular people because they give us purpose. We are dedicated to their Joy. Joy Is A Requirement
Do We Share Enough Interest – Joy in relationships is predicated on shared interest. What makes Joyous relationships isn’t our interest but the interest we have in common with others. We must share interests that are important to everyone involved. If we don’t have shared interests, the relationship would be forced and ultimately dissolve.
Define What Joy Means – This should have been on the top of the list. Define your term. What does Joy mean? If we don’t understand what Joy means to us, can we expect others to provide it? No! So, sit down and have a clear definition of what Joy means to you.
So remember, Joy, Is A Requirement In Our Relationships.
Watch the video below. Aziz explains further how Joy is a requirement in our relationships.
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Loyalty Goes Both Ways In Relationships
Loyalty Goes Both Ways In Relationships discusses the importance of embracing Loyalty as a two-sided concept. We expected the people who we betrayal to be loyal. Yet, where was the Loyalty before we acted against the commitment? If they decide to walk away from our disloyalty actions, it isn’t an act of disloyalty. It is an act of virtue. They are placing the integrity of the agreement above their desire to continue the relationship. We have to want to be in accountable relationships.
Aziz Discussed Three Points About How Loyalty Goes Both Ways In Relationships.
Loyalty Isn’t One-sided – When we enter any commitment, agreement, relationship, it is with the intention we are going to honor our word. We shouldn’t be loyal to the person as much as the agreement we promised to maintain. So, when anybody goes outside of the contract, they are disloyal, which means there is no longer an agreement to honor by the betrayed part/s. The maintenance of being loyal is not a one-sided affair!
How Was Loyalty Taught – We hear people repeatedly express their disappointment in people not sticking by them. Yet, not once do they ask themselves what did I do to push people away. We teach Loyalty as about holding on to relationships through repeated disappointment. It isn’t loyal. It unhealthy practices passed from generation to generation. Being loyal is thinking about our agreements and relationships before we act against them.
Remember Loyalty Is – We must never forget we choose the people we want to go through life with, and they’re choosing us. We build our relationships because we believe they will enhance our quality of life. Loyalty is a big part of our connections, so define what being loyal is in your relationships.
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Let’s Talk About Fatigue And How To Still Connect In Your Relationships
Let’s Talk About Fatigue And How To Still Connect In Your Relationships is a message on the move about not dealing with fatigue alone. Fatigue is a physical ailment but a mental and emotional deterrent in our relationships. Jerri explains why it is essential to let people in instead of shutting them out. When fatigue sets in, follow these four steps to preserve the health of your relationships.
First Step:
The first step is “being mindful of your mood.” As soon as you wake up, reflect on your mood and the mood you want. Strive for the spirit you want to be in because feeling fatigued means we have to be more mindful of our behavior.
Step Two:
The second step is to “reach out and express your mood.” It would be best if you didn’t hide how you are feeling. If fatigue is setting in, opening up to someone, tell them how you feel. The goal should be searching for ways to shake the feeling and get back to being your best.
Step Three:
The third step is to “honor your commitments.” When fatigue is setting in for whatever reason, think about your promises to ours. Use those promises as motivation to get out of bed and joy life. If you can do it for yourself, do it because you value your relationships.
Step Four:
The fourth step is “ask for help.” Suppose you have things you have to get done in the day. Ask someone if they can assist you. It’s okay to say I need support. Whether you need to rest or cross one more thing from your list of responsibilities, it all helps. So, ask for assistance!
Keep in mind, Love Is A Group Journey, and if you are struggling with fatigue, don’t be afraid to follow all four steps. Your relationships will thank you for it. Let’s Continue to Talk About Fatigue And How To Still Connect In Your Relationships
Play the video below for more details
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By TheLoveSnobs
Lean Into Our Relationships For AccountableLove
Lean into our relationships for AccountableLove is a podcast all about leaning in when you’re afraid. The LoveSnobs examine five reasons people tend to fear leaning into their relationships. The five ways are heartbreak, death, happiness, commitment, and Love.
We tend to close up when we are most vulnerable when it’s time to open up more.
Heartbreak: We are still breathing, but we feel like we are dying. Heartbreak causes us to retreat in our minds and lose track of our hearts. The pain is so intense and actual. We start to question everyone in our life, but they are the people who should be supporting us. The pain is a sign we need to lean in, not close up. The LoveSnobs will give tips and encouragement regarding how to lean into our relationships during heartbreak.
Death: When someone we Love passes away. Our heart leaves our chest, and we can’t comprehend the loss in our minds. Either we are in a state depressive or denial state. Communication is the last thought. Yet, it is the healthiest course of action ( no matter how many people state the opposite.) Lean into your friends, spouse, and family.
Happiness: So many people avoid happiness because they connect it to boredom. We watch many shows where “happy people” are obnoxious. Therefore, when we feel any signs of joy. We default to drama. Our state of happiness isn’t the end. It is the beginning. Lean into your satisfaction and try the maintain it over a lifetime.
Commitment: What is the goal in relationships? Is it to remain alone for a lifetime, jumping from one relationship to the next? or is it to find people to build a relationship. Commitment is the goal, not a prison. We have to start seeing calling people our friends and someone our spouse as the destination. Lean into our relationships! Settle down, unpack, and see your future.
Love: Love, the famous want but fear! We are scared to say it for two reasons; fear of pushing someone away or disappointing someone. Guess what? If Love is present, they will reciprocate the faith, and you would disappoint someone you Love (not intentional) So, what’s the fear? Nothing! It is all in our heads. I Love you means we are both invested in making things work. Don’t run! Walk forward!
These five reasons are why The LoveSnobs believe most of us fear leaning in. This podcast gives some reason to lean into our relationships for AccountableLove when you are going through heartbreak and death, experiencing happiness, working toward a commitment, and ready to honor Love.
So Lean into the Podcast and Listen, Learn, and Apply!
Are You An Accountable Parent?
Are You An Accountable Parent? As parents, we decided to have children without their vote. They don’t choose to have life, but we expect them to be grateful we gave them life. As parents, we believe our children owe us for given birth to them. When it is the opposite, we owe them for allowing us to be parents.
Our children will ultimately show their gratitude when they become adults themselves, acknowledging all that we put into their upbringing and are ready to have children themselves. And the cycle continues! Our gratitude will come solely from the adults our children become. How they forge relationships, and they become Accountable Adults and parent themselves. Isn’t this the goal?
This podcast asks the question,
Are You An Accountable Parent?
To answer that question,
we must ask and answer six questions:
- Do you have support?
Support is an accountable parent’s best friend. Suppose we couldn’t give ourselves a chance to breathe. We will unintentionally suffocate our children. Love Is A Group Journey and Raise Children Takes A Village!
- Do You Acknowledge Your children’s Strengths and Weaknesses?
Never become blind to your children’s strengths or weaknesses. See them in their entirety. Please get to know them fully to support them where they need support and encourage them where all they need is encouragement.
- Making Sure Your Child Has A Voice?
Children should be seen, and they need to be heard. As they develop, we must develop as parents. No more, Do it all for them. It becomes more of giving and take. Allow your children to become part of the process.
- Are you and Your Children on the same page?
We should encourage everyone to get on the same page. Not just our children but every adult who is in their lives. Our children must be getting the same message from multiply voices. Direction is the key to decision making.!
- Do you understand the stage of development?
It may be a cliche, but Knowledge is a superpower. Understanding each development benchmark makes you a superhero. They will assist you with making informed decisions when issues arise. Yes, people are different, but we all have similarities, which allows us to predict behavior. Arm yourself!
- Are You Mindful of The Parent-Child Dynamic?
What is the Parent-Child Dynamic? It is a relationship between a child and parent/s. The Parent-child relationship is an investment into our legacy and the framework of conceiving an accountable adult. It recognizes that we are an us, and we both enhance each other’s quality of life.
So, Are You An Accountable Parent?
If not, listen to this podcast and start working on becoming one.
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Lets Be Clear Here with Mahagony B
Lets be clear here with Mahagony B. The LoveSnobs are joined again by Mahagony B. of Mo’ Art Entertainment. If you watched all four seasons of The AccountableLove Podcast, you know Mahagony because she appeared every season. So, it only fits she be the first guest on season four, “Let’s Be Clear Here!”
The LoveSnobs ask Mahagony on the podcast to discuss the importance of “being clear” in our relationships. They also discuss how that clarity starts with matching Core Values. They discuss parenting, friendships, and partnerships. Mahagony expresses the joys and disappointments in building these relationships.
Mahagony’s Relationships
First, Mahagony shares her connection with her two adult daughters and how both daughters take different paths to build their core values. She was a young parent and wanted her children to have a strong foundation. While creating that foundation, she played the bad guy. She endured her children, calling her closed-minded, rigid, and unfair. As Adults, they now see the method to her madness.
Next, The LoveSnobs and Mahagony discuss building friendships. She recently challenged herself to complete a week of silence. During her silence, she realized how much her friend depended on her voice. She also noticed how angry they got when she was at their beck and called, causing her to rethink her approach to picking friends.
Last, They broached the topic of romantic partnerships. Mahagony stated she was stuck between meeting women who share her sense of humor or her core values. They never had both. She also discusses today’s dating scene, being a hopeful romantic, and never losing hope in finding a romantic partner.
Lets be clear here with Mahagony B isn’t just one woman’s relationship journey. It is one woman using her journey to encourage more people to build Accountable Relationships, hopefully.
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We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships
“We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships!” The Lovesnobs (Aziz & Jerri) never make any statements without explaining. This Podcast will provide that explanation. Take a step back. How many people do we see justifying why they lie or are being lied to or avoiding relationships altogether because people lie? Too many!
We decided to discuss this topic because it’s time to repair our expectations. People do lie, but the person you are starting relationships with has not lied to you. We shouldn’t enter any connections creating the standard so low. Yes, high expectations mean the fall is more significant. Yet, we must believe we deserve the best.
The LoveSnobs always start at the top and work never to fall. We encourage everyone to join us. Accountable Relationships are all about peaks and spending a lifetime preventing the valleys. In this podcast, The LoveSnobs will answer four questions.
- Why Do We Expect Lies
- Why Do We Accept Lies
- Is Lying to Tool and our Intentions The Problem
- How Can We Have More Honest Relationships
Answering these four questions will help people be more mindful while encouraging our listens to be a part of genuine relationships.
So, enjoy the podcast, “We Expect People To Lie In Our Relationships!” Listen, Learn, and Apply
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We Can Prolong Life By Having Healthy Relationships
We can Prolong life by having healthy relationships. We exercise to maintain health, build muscle mass for strength, and to feel great.
The LoveSnobs ask do want healthy relationships for the same reasons.
- Is It The Feeling That Motivates Us
Are we entering relationships because they make us feel good? We meet someone who matches our interest, and we enjoy their company. Is that what keeps us around?
- Is It The Need To Survive
Are we joining relationships because we need people? Believe it or not, people do start relationships out of necessity. They surround themselves with people who fulfill a need.
- Are You In Relationships To Maintain Your Legacy
Do you want healthy relationships for generational factors? People are always watching, especially our youth. Having healthy relationships can change how they cultivate relationships themselves.
- Can You Live With Changes
Can you adapt to change? Change is absolute. It will occur whether we like it or not. We must have the foundation in place to succeed in transition.
- Think About Why You Want Healthy Relationships
Are you in healthy Relationships? The LoveSnobs want you to think about the reason you decided to connect with others. Be honest, is it for a feel, survival, legacy, or all of the above.
The LoveSnobs expand on all five points in this video.
They also want you (the viewer) to start thinking about why we exercise to stay in physical shape without sharing life with people. Healthy Relationships don’t just prolong our lives, but they enhance our quality of life.
