Is Marriage Hard, Or Are We Just Cowards? We romanticize being mysterious. We use humor to hide the hurt. We even trick ourselves into believing that compassion means never showing our darkest sides. We’re so entitled that we’ve started believing me matters more than us. We call marriage “hard.” But are we just cowards? Always…
Happy Mother’s Day One of the clearest examples of AccountableLove is motherhood. A child is always watching — editing their mother like a well-read English teacher. A child arrives with expectations: food, shelter, a role model. And when your words don’t match your actions, the disappointments pile up like litter on a New York street.…
The Male Experience Look at her face — so beautiful. Look at her thighs, talking to me in devilish tones. How do I prove I’m not just another one? Not like the others? I’ll take her to dinner. I’ll look her straight in the eyes and tell her I can love her. I’ll put my…
We Must Find Common Ground Let me give you an analogy — the whole concept of relationships in one dinner. A man and a woman want to go out to eat, but they’re craving different foods. They have to find common ground, because the most important thing isn’t the food — it’s eating together. So…
Starting Equal Relationships The AccountableLove Podcast is here to promote equal and healthier relationships. We believe that when people enter relationships that empower them, those connections go on to inspire them. There are already too many inequalities in the world to then enter relationships that don’t strengthen us. We walk out of our homes into…
Clarity People stay in endless, draining relationships because they’re misinformed. They’re living by the wrong definitions of the very words that guide them — words like forgiveness, loyalty, trust, family, friends, and romantic partnership. So let’s bring some clarity. Forgiveness is wishing someone well after they’ve harmed you. It is not reconciliation. You can forgive…
We All Should Be LoveSnobs Let’s hope everyone woke up today ready to be a LoveSnob. We eat, sleep, drink, and live love. We wake up honored to have life, and encouraged to live in the love we can give and the love we can receive. We know it sounds like we’re high, stuck in…
Are We Prepared? We sit watching show after show, reading book after book, having discussion after discussion with one person then the next. And the common theme keeps surfacing: as humans, we can’t seem to trust each other. Are we prepared? We keep treating a great relationship as protecting someone from the truth — then…
Trauma Isn’t Us We tend to tell people that trauma is a part of who we are — like a scar that can’t heal, or worse, like a right to do traumatic things to other people. But trauma isn’t us. We have traumatic experiences. We just also have a choice not to become them. We…
Relationships Should Inspire Us Do the people around you inspire you? And if the answer is “no” — why aren’t you inspiring them? Wake up not just to breathe, but to exhale, so others can inhale. Our inability to feel satisfied in our relationships is behind so much of the sadness and depression we see.…