Trauma Isn’t Us
We tend to tell people that trauma is a part of who we are — like a scar that can’t heal, or worse, like a right to do traumatic things to other people. But trauma isn’t us. We have traumatic experiences. We just also have a choice not to become them.
We have great times in life, and we have horrible ones. So why do we so often choose to live inside the pain instead of the joy?
Did we stop believing we have any control over the outcome? Let’s remove those bars before our relationships suffer for them. Our time on this earth is meant to be preserved — to move past the harmful people we encounter by finding the ones who love us.
And if you think loving people aren’t out there, you’re mistaken. They exist. We just have to set standards, show love to attract love, and let go of the people who prefer drama over it. But first, we have to become the love we expect.
Becoming that love means talking about our trauma as an illness we will overcome. It means acknowledging the experience — no matter how horrible — while still reaching for something better. Will it be easy? Not at all. Is it worth the fight? That’s something each of us has to decide.
We believe every person deserves a positive, supportive, equal relationship. But you have to have faith in that belief before it can become real.
Remember: our trauma isn’t us. But how we carry it reveals our character.
The LoveSnobs
