What’s Your Top Four Core Values

Before developing Accountable Relationships, we must first know our top four core values. As Accountable Relationship Builders, our first sessions are about matching our builders to the suitable core values.

Why? 

Our core values are who we are. They make our decision for us. How we select our friends and spouses and raise our children is based on our Core Values. It gives us an understanding of what our builder/s hold valuable and allows us to assist them with being their support. 

Core Values are our moral fiber. We all think we regret betraying people. Yet, we don’t care if we don’t cross our core values. In most circumstances, the regret comes from betraying our core values and, in the process betraying the person. 

It’s essential to know your Core Values. 

We chose four core values because:

• Four is the foundation of a home
• Four are East, West, South, North
• If we have four people standing back to back, we can see every vantage point. 

Now select your top four Core Values and start examining yourself and your relationships.  

16 Core Values

Accountable – I believe it is essential to say I am wrong and right when I am right. I also hold the people around me to the same standard. It is hard for me to respect anyone who is not humble when proven wrong or steadfast when correct.

Dependable – My word means the world to me. Dependability is one of my four core values because actions accompany my words. When I say I am coming, I will show up. In reverse, once I say I am not coming, I most likely will not attend. People can count on me to honor my words with matching actions.

Integrity – I believe in doing the right thing whether someone is watching. Any system that works, I will do everything to uphold that system. I do not care what the masses are doing. I understand the importance of structure and making sure it is honored.

Mindful – Studying people fuels me. I take pride in understanding other people’s likes, dislikes, needs, wants, and desires. Bringing others Joy, providing comfort, and encouraging them in their lives is a big part of my identity. I make sure I think of the pros and cons before using My words and acting.

Faithful – I believe that honoring a commitment is more significant than appeasing people. I understand that systems run people; people do not run systems. So, when I sign up for an agreement, I will live that agreement. I am serious about protecting my promises.

Trustworthy – I volunteer information. I am big on being transparent and value the comfort of certainty or close to it. I am unafraid to be an open book because if people can trust me when I am present, they can trust me when I am not.

Honorable – I am proactive. So, putting myself in any position which compromises my good character is not an option. I don’t respond based on how I feel. Most of my responses must make long-term sense. I believe in putting people in the best positions to succeed. It is just the right way to live.

Honest – Hurt feelings, short-term consequences, or disconnections are not my preoccupation; therefore, Honesty is one of my four core values. If it means lying, I will risk it to avoid being deceptive. Being candid is not a bad thing at all. I think it is a great attribute. I believe people should speak their thoughts and allow chemistry to dictate the survival of our relationships.

Empathy – I can talk to a person and see it from their vantage point. When I listen, I listen to understand, not from one side, but in search of validity. I am impartial, even if the outcome does not suit me personally.

Straightforward – Being genuine is especially important to me. I walk into every room and challenge people to accept everything I am unwilling to change and will not apologize for it. It is not about being frank. It is about providing choice.

Purposeful – I see relationships as faith. I cannot connect with anyone that does not see the big picture. Everything I do has long-term gain, even if there is a short-term loss. I am motivated by the idea that I am working toward something greater than myself. 

Confidence – I embrace challenges. I am the first to check someone, volunteer for something most would deem terrifying, and I will call myself out in a crowd. I do not worry about being isolated if it means standing up for my convictions.

Fair – I believe people should get what they deserve. Fairness is one of my four core values because I presume people will get what they put in. I understand that best practice does not necessarily equate to absolute right or wrong. Yet, I know decisions have to be made. I am not intimidated by decision-making. Measuring the facts with circumstances is how I formulate my conclusions.

Determined – I will see it through when I set my mind to something. I am outcome-driven. I tackle it from beginning to end. Asking questions, doing research, listening, or speaking, I do what it takes. I am not satisfied until my goals are complete. 

Loyal – I do not believe in committing to people. I buy into agreements and destinations. I will never leave anyone behind if I promise to bring them home. Loyalty cannot exist within one entity, so I assure you it is reciprocated.

Reasonable – Having all the information before deciding is crucial to me. I take pride in doing what is best for everyone, not just one person. Arguing for a solution is my goal. I enjoy problem-solving and refuse to move forward until I have a resolution.

Choose Your Four Core Values and Live Through them.

They are the best of you!

By The LoveSnobs