The Four Fundamental Roles Of Village
In Accountable Relationships. We recommend you have the foundation of four fundamental roles of a village: The Leader, The Protector, The Manager, and The Nurturer. Everyone has these traits and qualities based on the room they are in or what roles are missing from their lives. Yet, what makes someone fulfill each position is based on their nature.
Everyone has a fundamental nature trait. The trait that feels like home and our identities are lost without them. So, we never have to convince a leader to be a leader or a nurturer to be a nurturer because they were born to fill this role. When each person is self-aware, they will flourish in their roles and strengthen their Village in the process.
The Four Fundamental Roles
The Leader – The Leader is the one who not only brings everyone together but keeps each person focused on the big picture. Their primary focus is to ensure the strength of the Village. They are conceptual thinkers who speak in plurals (we, us, etc.). Leaders talk this way because they don’t see themselves as singular. They understand it takes a team to build anything worth having.
Leaders are typically innovators. They see moves ahead, which makes them look crazy until everyone catches up. For this reason, Leaders need people who can see the vision and make it a reality. They need more support than any human on earth.
Leaders are inspirational and are frequently called manipulators due to their ability to encourage people to believe in an ideal. Leaders can get so caught up in the group they can sometimes lose track of the individual, forcing them to take a step back, supporting the one to strengthen the many.
Overall, the Leader is wise. They have the power to empower or disempower.
The Protector– The Protector is quality assurance. “Operations!” They protect the Leader and support the Nurturer and Manager. The Protector tends to have some anger issues. Their personality can be combative, but they are not afraid to speak their mind. Yet, that same fire protects the group from outside threats.
When you are a Protector, things have to make sense. Logic is their strong suit, which can make it harder to discuss their emotions. This is when Leaders are great because they encourage Protectors to be more emotionally intelligent. They keep the Protector grounded.
If you have a Protector in your Village, you never worry because they will protect everyone with their life.
The Nurturer: The Nurturer ensures everyone in the relationship has what they need (physically and emotionally). They provide an environment that is always healthy. They are the heartbeat of the Village. Their Loved one’s emotional and physical well-being is vital to them.
Nurturers are a much-needed part of the Village Foundation. Nurturers tend to be taskers which typically means they are better at assisting people with their needs than connecting with people. They do not speak much but enjoy ensuring others are okay.
Nurturers are sweet but spicy. They can be forward at awkward times but will show up for a hug or massage right on time. If you have a Nurturer, you’ll never want for anything.
The Manager – The Manager is the scheduler. They make sure everyone’s calendar reflects planned dates. They are a Fundamental Role, ensuring everyone is on time for every event and appointment; they can even be your alarm clock. Like the Nurturer, they assist the group with needs but mentally.
They can get overwhelmed when something doesn’t go according to plan. They occasionally need one of the other roles to reel them in (preferably the Leader). Yet, when they are at their best, a Manager doesn’t skip a beat. They get passion from people who enjoy something they plan from beginning to end. They make dreams a reality.
When you have a Manager in the group, you never have to wonder how your week looks. They have you covered. Details are their superpower. They take pride in making sure things are running smoothly.
When we have a Village foundation of a Leader, Protector, Manager, and Nurturer, there aren’t any difficult obstacles to overcome. Of course, we can have more people within our Village, but the fundamental pieces of the Village should operate around these four Fundamental Roles. They can be two couples, four friends, parents, children, or any other combination within the Accountable Relationship structure. But we recommend all four roles are present. If not, the other people will have to fulfill that role collectively, putting a strain on the entire Village.
So, read this Blog with your core group or Village and see each person’s fundamental role. Encourage one another to excel in your perspective purpose and watch everyone shine.
