Someone Is Going To Pay!

I was watching a television series when I heard someone say, “If it doesn’t succeed, someone is going to have to pay.” We take that same approach with our relationships. We say, “I’ve been heartbroken before, so prove you’re different.” But we never factor in that the other person has been hurt too. Maybe not in the same way — but wounded nonetheless. We start believing our past pain gives us the right to interrogate future connections. 

Stop. Think about how a relationship should actually begin.

Wanting someone to pay is counterproductive. Should the foundation start with “prove it”? Or should we say this is a fresh beginning?

Ask Yourself Four Questions (make this an H2)

Step back and ask yourself these four questions:

• Do I like this person?
• Do I want to get to know the person in front of me?
• Am I ready to be responsible for the well-being of another?
• Am I willing to allow someone to be accountable for mine?

Once you answer each one honestly, trust the chemistry between you.

Someone Is Going To Pay — But What If It Doesn’t?

Someone must pay if it doesn’t succeed — but what if it does? It may not work out, and people may get hurt. But squandering the chance at a great friendship or life partner will cost you far more.

So study the past. Let it guide you away from unwanted company. Just don’t use it to push away the bonds you actually want.

Your quality of life depends on you knowing the difference.

 The LoveSnobs