First Dates – Four Ways To Build A Strong Foundation
First Dates are not tricky if you aren’t trying to be tricky. When people say, “be yourself on the first date.” They mean allowing others to get to know you. Tell them who you were, who you are, and who you want to be! Don’t hold back, and don’t second guess yourself. The truth will make your decisions.
Here are four ways to start working toward creating a lifetime partnership!
1. Show Up To The Date
Don’t listen to anyone who tells you to hide who you are. Show up to merge, highlighting the good with the bad, giving the relationship a positive direction. Never allow doubt the cloud your judgment. Give the person in front of you informed choices. The worst that can happen is another last date. The best case is the second date to the rest of your life. Regardless, the foundation will be set.
2. Pick A Place To Talk
Choosing the right place is essential. The First Date is about 5 hours on average; spend the time talking about your past, the present, and how both futures would look together. Remember, the goal is finding a life partner, not wasting time. Make every moment count. When you walk away from the date, leave with certainty.
3. Ignore The Physical
Sex is good. Being physically attracted to one another is different from acting on the attraction. Though the physical is essential in a romantic relationship. It should be binding. Make sure you are connected spiritually before allowing your bodies to bond. If you believe this person is worth intimacy, go through the process. Get to know them, connect on core values, plan a life together, and commit by agreeing to join the body and soul.
4. Don’t Play Games
Playing games can be fun, but with people’s hearts isn’t fun. If you are not interested after getting to know the person, let them know. If you are ready for a second date, reach out. But don’t ghost them, wait for them to call, or play coy. Transparency is attractive, and anyone who says otherwise is lying.
The First Date is not the first day of the rest of your life. It is the evaluation of having a life partner. If you are dedicated to the process, death will be the only thing that can keep you apart.
