Is Ego Your Drug of Choice in your relationships? We used the term “drug of choice” because the ego is a way people escape from the responsibilities of their relationships. We understand there are more than four ways people can be egotistical in their relationships. The LoveSnobs choose to highlight these four ways people can be display ego because they get overlooked frequently. Read each description and see if it describes you or someone you are currently in a relationship with.
Four Ego Traits That Effect Our Relationships
The Deflectors:
The Deflector’s ego doesn’t allow them to take responsibility for their wrongs in relationships. They are the “We are all human and are capable of mistakes” person. They state the obvious. The deflector shields themselves from accountability by discussing what wrongs everyone else displayed or others have done. When it’s time to discuss all the reasons they acted selfishly, they state they did want to be judged. Implying that the other person is hard to be honest with, meaning that person is why they couldn’t be straightforward in the first place.
The Martyr:
The Martyr is the opposite of the deflector. Their ego doesn’t allow them to hold people accountable in their relationships. They avoid conflict by taking on all the problems themselves. The Martyr acts like they are the bigger and better person for remaining in unhealthy relationships. They are the man or the woman that stayed for 30 years because their faith demanded it. Shouldn’t the person that dragged you through the mud honor that faith as well? They tend to push good people away to maintain their unhealthy relationships. Saying they aren’t judgmental to avoid holding people accountable.
The Self-Loather:
The Self-Loather’s ego poisons themselves, therefore poisoning their relationships. They are the “I hate myself so nobody else can hate me” person. They commit acts of relationship sabotage. You can’t hold them accountable because they already beat themselves up by isolating themselves, taking a substance, or saying they need help when they aren’t going to follow through. They get stuck in negative cycles.
The perspective person:
The Perspective person is the politician. Their ego will not allow them to give definitive answers, but they challenge those who do. They are the person who wants to see all side but refuses to make to make a decision. It is cool to look at all sides before making decisions, but we must make decisions in relationships. They lead from behind and label every decision-maker as lacking flexibility or adaptability but will not make decisions regarding other people. They are the“commitment are restrictive” people but want to be other people’s priority.
These are only four ways the Ego can affect our relationships. The Lovesnobs hope reading these descriptives helps you identify issues and make the changes to build healthier and more accountable relationships.
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By The LoveSnobs
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