Being Accountable Parents is about building Accountable Relationships with our children. Employing “Tough Love” is a part of creating those bonds, yet soft and tender Love is equally essential. As parents, we must know how to develop our children without breaking their spirits. While ensuring, we aren’t breaking down ourselves.
Building a village is an essential part of being Accountable Parents. Having a Village allows us to have the support to nurture our children and take breaks to nurture ourselves to be better parents. Extra caregivers give us additional sets of eyes and more personalities to relate to our children’s potential aspects. They can challenge us when we go wrong and encourage us when we are right. The more like-minded people we surround ourselves with gives our children a better chance at becoming Accountable Adults.
Our children are a part of us. Therefore, they are a reflection of us. The LoveSnobs do not view parenting as raising children. We view parenting as building an adult from birth. This approach allows parents to remain conscious that their children will live as adults a lot longer than kids. Teach this mentality encourages parents to study their child’s temperament.
Who Is My Child?
Accountable parents expose their children to a variety of activities, environments, people, and cultures. Watching them and see what they gravitate towards; allows us (parents) to hone in on their interest. We also have the ability to gauge what experiences they want to duplicate repeatedly and which they don’t. Children are perfectionists and can bore easily when they aren’t interested. So, keeping them engaged and challenged is necessary. Remember, just like our friends and spouses. We must be in tune with our children’s likes and dislike to get to know them.
Show Them Who You Are?
Before your children entered the world, you had interests, likes, and dislikes as well. Accountable Parents expose them to what brings us, JOY. Express to them what frustrates us. Build a genuine bond. Who better to be their first relationship than their parents. Teach them the flow of relationships, give and take, take and give. We want them to build accountable relationships themselves.
Create Structure
A Structure doesn’t mean a dictatorship. It means creating and a dependable environment. Structure teaches our children how to enjoy life without destroying their relationships in the process. It builds character. When creating a system, boundaries must be clear. The parent-child relationship is a relationship, so a structure must be in place which allows parent and child to flourish. Accountable parents explain to their children the importance of not touching the stove, playing in the toilet, and hitting us. While expressing their limitless potential, making time to sit and talk, and encourage them to play and explore.
Remain Focused On The Destination
Before having children, what were your dreams? Still, chase those dreams. A fulfilled parent will raise fulfilled children. Our villages are essential for this aspect of raise children. We will need to surround ourselves with people who believe in our visions. They will encourage us never to lose focus on the destination. Parenting should be a hindrance. It should motivate us to maintain our role model status. By reaching until we have the life, we can later encourage them to acquire.
So, How do we become more accountable parents?
Build A village
Ask who is my child
Show your child who you are
Create Structure
Remain focused on the destination
be the accountable adult you want your child to be one-day
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most of all, always remember you are building a relationship with your children. Both parent and child must be represented in the relationship.
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By The LoveSnobs
