Why Are We In Relationships, Looking Past Them?
Sitting in an empty house wishing a partner would share our space. We are dating several people at a time, passing the months. We have several engagements from different apps and three or four fit-ups( by friends and family).
Searching!
We narrow it down to the person who shares our vision for life—the person who makes us feel like they would add variety to a straightforward existence.
We bond!
Life starts to look incomplete without a commitment. So, we decide. Decide to go from you and me to us.
Two years approach. We are sitting in a house staring into the eyes of a person who has become multiple questions.
Where is this going?
Are we going to have children?
Is this relationship the end?
Things aren’t horrible. Actually, they are the best we have ever encountered, making the next steps seem vital. So, we broach the topics. It’s confirmed marriage is a mutual goal, and kids can be conceived tonight after work f we wish. Every question is answered. Meaning our life is back on track. The house is starting to have a future.
Why are we in Relationships
Now, we have two children, defined roles in life, and employment with security. Yet, the house is never empty. We find ourselves wishing for space. Life feels crowded. Partner, children, never-ending responsibilities, we are overwhelmed. For several hours a day, we miss the emptiness of a house with no partner, children, responsible. We start to resent the younger us. We start taking our lives for granted.
Guilty!
Those thoughts are locked away in silence.
Projecting!
We wonder if our partner feels the same when they kiss our lips—staring deep into their eyes.
Searching!
We search for recognition in their soul. But, nothing, nothing but Love, gratitude, and sadness when they see something in our eyes.
Your partner asks,
“What is wrong?”
Guilty!
Why are We In Relationships,
At first, you think to lie, but guilt, not honor, encourages you to be honest. Your partner looks you in the face and says,
“We are in this together,
and if you feel overwhelmed,
don’t make me the enemy.”
“Honor our agreement to be fair, honest, straightforward, and devoted.” They continue, “You are not cheating on me because of your thoughts. You’re fooling with your silences.”
“Silence will break us.”
At that second,
You acknowledge why independence is the death of interdependence. Forgetting you had a person who would work with you. Cry in relief, shake your head “yes.” In that moment, you stop living in your head and start to live the life you both built aloud.
Love Is A Group Journey means sharing life, not assuming life!
Think About It!
