Relationships Should Be Everyone’s Study
We’re here on this earth. But why?
We believe the answer is to build equal and just relationships — and to make the earth better in the process. It’s a known fact that people are more productive inside productive relationships. It sounds like common sense. Yet people keep risking meaningful relationships for personal gain, and it leaves a trail of misery behind them.
Hurt is infectious. The cure is studying what actually makes a relationship functional.
I know — when people see the word “study,” they picture school or specialists. But isn’t life a school? And shouldn’t we all want to specialize in relationships? Yes.
We shouldn’t enter relationships blindly, and we shouldn’t misuse people to figure out what we want. Transparency and genuineness come from understanding yourself well enough to offer love. So close your eyes and picture the complementary people you want — people who enhance you as you enhance them. That’s the beginning of an equal and just relationship.
Then we sit down with them. We ask questions, we watch whether their actions match their answers, and we expose ourselves in return.
That last part is the hard one. Exposing ourselves.
We fear judgment because of every misstep in our past. We fear not being liked, or being rejected outright. Yet we crave connection — so we avoid conflict, go with the flow, and stay in our heads instead of revealing our hearts. Our convictions are a huge part of who we are, but we keep them silent.
That’s why conflict is essential to the process. Our hearts house our principles, and we lose ourselves in relationships when we forget to let those principles show.
Sex, physical attraction, and desire will motivate us to open the door. But it only becomes a relationship when we’re comfortable with commitment. And commitment comes from finding common ground with people who are like-minded and same-hearted. It’s setting a destination and working toward it every day.
It’s okay to make plans for your life. In fact, planning is necessary for an equal and just relationship — because the first sign of someone who doesn’t want to commit is their inability to plan. True freedom has a structure. Consistency equals dependability, and we all want someone we know will be present.
We could go on and on. But the moral is simple: relationships should be everyone’s study.
The LoveSnobs
