Relationships Have Universal Rules
Do relationships have universal rules? Our answer is yes.
We all fear our relationships not being unique, because we want to keep control over setting the standards. But universal rules don’t mean each connection isn’t its own. It just means there are signs we should all follow when starting equal, healthier personal relationships.
Honest Communication
Let’s start there. What do we mean by honest communication? It’s sharing your thoughts openly — whether you’re comfortable, whether you fear the conflict, whether you think common ground is impossible. Start the discussions, and see them through to an outcome.
Relationships grow from seeds into plants the same way a garden does: by shining light on the problems, watering the soil with transparency, and taking pride in tending to your loved ones the way people tend to prayer. Surrendering to a life of fearlessness will feel refreshing.
Faith
Every relationship should center on faith. Why be in a relationship you lack confidence in? If we can spot a gambling problem by someone’s inability to stop placing bad bets, we should use the same logic to spot when a person is bad for us — when they keep putting us in bad situations.
Remember: faith is believing in the future based on evidence collected from the past and studied in the present. So don’t spend your life placing bad bets on people who never return the value.
Consistent Practice
The third rule is maintaining consistent practice. We all want spontaneity — but what actually lets a long-term relationship flourish is excellent habits. Find people who don’t just enjoy dancing, but want to be exceptional dancers. People who understand that excellence takes practice: long debates, humbling truths, and working in unison. We have to wrestle with when to lead and when to follow, so we can perform anytime we’re called on.
We Have More In Common Than We Think
We need universal rules to teach relationships, love, and quality of life. So — do relationships have universal standards? Yes. But people keep trying to break them just to prove they’re different. What they never see is that relationships were never about our differences. They’re about what we have in common.
The LoveSnobs
