Arguing is Healthy for our relationships. We tend to avoid arguments because we believe they will add stress and disrupt relationships (which can happen), but what if we start embracing conflict and get the desired outcome. What if we start seeing arguments as fighting for our relationships instead of against them.
As a society, we are constantly dreading the negative. We are waiting for “the drama” so much that we create more drama trying to escape it. We keep our opposing views to ourselves, manage the people in our lives, and paint healthy relationships as who can argue the least. But, Arguing is healthy.
And here are four reasons why…
Conflict Is A Tool For Resolution.
We have different ideas which give us our identity. But, in relationships, our goal is one accord. Conflict is a tool for resolution. We have to start looking at arguing as a chance to resolve our differences. Yes, we have to be productive in our approach to arguing, but we must first see it as an opportunity, not a hindrance.
Conflict is good. It shows an investment in the relationship. It gives each person an opportunity to discuss what’s not working. Reshaping our mentality around the word “Argue” starts us at the midway point to solving issues.
This brings us to the second reason arguing is healthy.
Arguing Is Where Free Speech Is Housed.
Yes, I repeat.
Arguing is where free speech is housed. We can freely show our passion for a topic, have a heated exchange, and strengthen our relationship in the process. The first sign that a relationship is unhealthy is when you never argue. Two strangers coming together will disagree on so many things.
What will make two or more people compatible is their ability to search for agreements in disagreements. Doing this will take patience, will, and honor. When you have mutual respect, creating rules of engagement is freedom. Free speech is essential for our psychological, emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being.
Which is an excellent segway to our following reason.
We Collect More Stress Holding Our Thoughts In.
Have you ever gotten a headache, felt fatigued, found yourself easily angered, and had constant negative thoughts. Then, look at the person who shares their views and opinions; clear-headed, energetic, calm, and optimistic. It’s because they are alleviating their stress by having open dialogues. They embrace conflict, are vulnerable enough to risk being wrong, and stay engaged regardless of the many emotion they feel in the heat of the battle. They understand that walking away “in wonder” will be more stressful than weathering a disagreement.
We collect more stress holding our thought in. Disagreeing and ultimately coming to an agreement is a stress reliever. It may be difficult in the beginning, but your body will thank you later.
Arguing is healthy for relationships.
Every Relationship Will Benefit From Ironing Out Our Grievances.
As soon as a problem arises, the healthiest way to support your relationships is to address it. The best time is in the moment, but if the moment isn’t ideal, make it known you want to have a discussion later. Look forward to the conflict, believe it will bring you and the other person (people) closer. We must never forget we are in a relationship together, and it is every party’s job to maintain the relationship’s health.
Disagreements are beneficial for our relationships. Yes, we can have arguments that spiral out of control, but in all the chaos, clarity will be found. Every relationship will benefit from ironing out our grievances.
Overall, Arguing gets a bad rap, but it is only a tool. How we use the tool is within our control. Make sure you use arguments to strengthen your connections and not show how much of an individual you are. Remember, Arguing is healthy for our relationships.
So, embrace them!
The LoveSnobs
