Are You Giving up on building relationships?

 Giving up on building relationships is not the best of you. Don’t allow pain to make your relationship decisions.

If you started your life wanting to connect with others, but now you don’t, you are leading with pain. It is not the process of bonding that’s hurting you; It’s the people you are building relationships with that have fatigued you.

Don’t blame the tool; blame the person using the tool.

You are in pain because you are carrying more of the relationship than you signed up to accept. You are fatigued because you have been doing it longer than excepted. Both of the previous sentences start with you because it is you who are allowing this to happen. Giving up on building relationships shouldn’t be a decision you make in pain.

Take a moment to think:

What did I do wrong?

You will have people say, ” There isn’t anything you did wrong; it is them.” Look those people in the face and be accountable.

1) I chose them.
2) I built relationships with them.
3) I decided to stay in a relationship with them.

Then to move forward, believe and say, “I have to fix my approach by selecting people to join Accountable Relationships with me.”

Now, it isn’t all you.

You might have been honorable, but was it reciprocal?

You may have been loyal, but was it a boomerang?

You may have held up your end of every agreement, did they?

Ultimately, search for relationships that enhance everyone involved. Continue looking until you find relationships worth maintaining. Giving up on building relationships should never be an option.

Just say, “I want to be in Accountable Relationships.”

“I want Relationships where every person is equally invested in the maintenance of the relationship. I refuse to be emotionally fatigued by carrying the entire relationship.” Once you make that promise to yourself, keep that promise.

How do you keep that promise?

1) Start with acknowledging your worth:

Build bonds with people who see your value, not just for what you bring to their life but what they give to yours. Accountable Relationships are never about me, but we. The only time they are about me is when you must walk away to find a new We. Remember, Love, Is A Group Journey, and building valuable relationships are about buying into the title’s investments (friend, partner, or family).

2) Stop being afraid to look close-minded:

Stand for something. Like minds will see the reasoning behind your convictions and buy-in. They will encourage you to have firm boundaries because they do. They will appreciate the gravity so everyone can walk together.

3) Be vulnerable:

Don’t hold anything back. Vulnerability is a superpower, and the only people who see it as a weakness are those who are afraid to be vulnerable themselves. When someone says, they don’t want to share, respect it, but don’t accept it. Vulnerability is a must.

4) Never lose sight of the destination:

Make long-term plans and work on them together. Take the time to sit down and discuss what each person wants to accomplish and the role each party plays to accomplish those goals. We should be a participant in everyone’s purpose. Sign up for a position and do your part. Remember, set the destinations and never lose sight.

So Are You Giving Up On Building Relationships?

No, start to build yourself Accountable Relationships!

By The LoveSnobs